I think i may have figured this out! I added my computer to my cable modem "DMZ" zone and started VOIPERIZED... I saw 7 people there,i quickly added them all to my contact list.... They all dropped.... I clicked "frank" and he reconnected AND ALL OTHERS ALSO DID!! (THAT WERE CONNECTED TO HIM) I think all this time my cable modem firewall has been the issue.... When i disable it and only use my LOCAL firewall,it seems to work.... (I have to click on the username first though,otherwise the firewall sees it as an UNSOLICITED CONNECTION and drops it) If i could authorize ALL UDP INBOUND REQUESTS WHEN I WAS RUNNING VOIP IT WOULD BE NICE,but the requests come in on all different ports so its not that easy.....