The 90/10 principle

[indianarchie]

The 90/10 principle

What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is

decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what

happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane

will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver

may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over

this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can

control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control

how you react.

Let's use an example.

You are having breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over

a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over

what just what happened. What happens when the next will be

determined by how you react.

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup

over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your

spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge

of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and

change your shirt. Back

downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to

finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your

spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you

are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After

a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at

school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at

the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your

day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and

worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you

find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of

how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is " D". You had no control over what happened with the

coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes

over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok

honey, you just need,to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel

you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase,

you come back down

in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the

bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully

greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are

having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended

different.Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have

any control over 10% of what happens.The other 90% was determined by

your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says

something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll

off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment

affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong

reaction could

result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose

your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the

steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure

skyrocket? Do you

try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at

work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are

told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will

work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another

job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the

day. Why take out your

frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is

going on. Use your time to study,get to know the other passenger.

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know

the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.

You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this

principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from

undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

What do u people think of it?

[DigeratiPrime]

i like it, thanks for sharing. I already live like this, but its another way of looking at it.

Interesting to observe how subtle but important emotion is in decision making.

[Spyder2k]

This is a nice 'theory', but much of how we react is determined by an attitude that developed at a young age because of the environment arround us.

It's a good 'principle' to apply when we're aware of the relevance of our decisions.

[mark]

This is a nice 'theory', but much of how we react is determined by an attitude that developed at a young age because of the environment arround us.

It's a good 'principle' to apply when we're aware of the relevance of our decisions.

True but I also think that you inherit a lot of your personality from your parents. You may not exactly be like them but on occasion you will hear someone say "you're just like your Uncle _______" or "Aunt _____" and they can be someone you have never met.

Either way, you are responsible for you own actions.

[phoenix_nf]

WOW, you are a real visionary, man do you do a lot of thinking.

BTW inidanarchie i've only d/loaded 7 Mb of your file , patience patience , and lets see you practice what you preach lolz.

[epic]

This is a nice 'theory', but much of how we react is determined by an attitude that developed at a young age because of the environment arround us.

It's a good 'principle' to apply when we're aware of the relevance of our decisions.

True but I also think that you inherit a lot of your personality from your parents. You may not exactly be like them but on occasion you will hear someone say "you're just like your Uncle _______" or "Aunt _____" and they can be someone you have never met.

Either way, you are responsible for you own actions.

Read it carefuly. It is stating exactly that besides other environments.

Phoenix- 90/10 has been around for a long time.