To be honest, I was disappointed that with all the experts on here, nobody would offer any real help, so I just blew off this thread and went my merry way. But, since someone else asked, I won't just ignore them like I was, I will provide what I was able to learn, THE HARD WAY... (lucky I just happen to check back here on this thread)
#1, using the link -X- I searched there for days and tried most of what I found there. The results, many of their add-ons don't work, and the ones that do have a ton of other add-ons included (non M$ add-ons). A number of people there had asked for add-ons that only included official clean patches, but they were always met with snide comments, ignored, or told to do it themselves. So much for that place being of any real help to anyone.
#2, I searched Bing and Google for days and days, looking up everything I could find and testing things. Sure **** good thing I had the time and a machine to test on huh? I hit what felt like a zillion dead ends, people saying it can't be done, etc etc etc, a list of useless information too long to list here. In other words, it wasn't a total waste, I learned a zillion ways on how NOT to do it, and that in itself can be useful.
#3, By sheer luck and refusal to give up, I found the answer. I have tried it and it works flawless.... Every time.... I am posting it here so that maybe it might save someone else some time, even though nobody seemed to want to help me... Who knows, maybe I just caught all the "experts" at the wrong time...
The answer is here ----> http://www.wincert.net/forum/topic/7696-addon-net-framework-11-20-30-35-gdrqfe-true-addons/
That will provide everything you need for all the .NET frameworks except 4. I no longer have the link (or I would give it), but 4 was also available at the same place from the same person, just in a different thread. I am sure it would not be too hard to locate.
In any case, I now have a clean CD that has all the official patches from M$ for Win XP Pro (x86), and nothing else. When I use it to install, I can go to Windows update and it shows with NO updates needed, except the newest malicious software removal tool and a couple optional items I chose to leave out (The search assist thing, I forget what it is called). And, it passes all the test programs out there that are supposed to check your .NET framework. THEY WORK! Perfect for me.